09 July 2010

mendidik my emill tentang empati

emotional health and well-being experts:
Empathy is the ability to put yourself in another's place and to take that perspective into account in your relationship with the other person. Empathy is caring about the answer to the question, "How would I feel if I were in her shoes?" Unlike skills that require abstract thought, such as mathematics or reading, empathy is a way of relating to others. It cannot be taught formally, but is learned by imitating those who are important to us.

You need to set the example — be empathetic and caring to your child and others, and he will learn. Because he loves you, believes you are perfect, and wants to be just like you, he will grow up wanting to treat herself and others with the same loving kindness he gets from you. By understanding your child's needs and responding to them in a loving way, you teach her to understand and love herself and to understand and cherish others.


It's also important to account for your child's developmental immaturity. Infants and young children normally base their sense of well-being on their ability to get what they want when they want it. The toddler or preschooler who wants a toy will grab it, whether or not it is attached to another child, and she won't want to share a favorite toy with a friend who asks for it. This is normal behavior for her age, and you do not need to worry that if you don't come down hard on her she will grow up to be selfish and uncaring.



In reality, your child will not be ready to be a sharing, caring friend until after he turns 3. At that point, he will share because (most of the time) his friends will be more important to him than his possessions. So you don't need to try to teach your child about the feelings and rights of others. Just continue to love, care for, and enjoy him. By imitating you, he will learn to treat others with the same consideration.

this is a good thought i guess..... emill must grow up as an empathy man tau....be a gentleman!!

10 comments:

Alida Ali said...

bgs mendidik anak dari kecik..sebab masa kecik diorg senang nak ikut apa yg dia tgk...

LIP (^_^) said...

to alida: :) that's rite..

sz | m.s.s said...

betul3...anak2 ni belajar melalui pemerhatian...dia suka ikut apa yg dia lihat/tengok/perati...

Lovely Bella said...

hehhe moga emil menjadi lelaki yang budiman.. chewaahh!! muaaah skit utk emill

LIP (^_^) said...

to sz:mudah2an we can be the best person to be the best role models to them kan.

LIP (^_^) said...

to bella: tq for the wish bella dear.

::Mamalyna:: said...

budak2 time kecik, memang suka mengikut, sebab itu kita kena asuh meka dari kecik kan... good jop lip!

Ena said...

betul tu.. kena mulakan semasa anak2 kecil lagikan.. biar dier memahami..

budak2 skrg memg cepat belajar.. kdg sekali tengok dan sekali sebut dah boleh ikut.. kalau yg elok Alhamdulillah.. yg tak elok pulak nauzubillah...

LIP (^_^) said...

to mamalyna and ena: memang tough sebenarnye tugas ibu bapa kan..

Im - mamababahworld said...

Hello dear, it's quite late, but i am following you by now..:0

Bz lately, i haven't got much updates in my blog..keep on contacting each other ya!

btw, ur Emill is so adorable..;)

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